We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures” – Thornton Wilder
Can you tell me 5 unordinary moments in the last 24 hours that you have gratitude towards? Share in the comments, keep reading if you’re confused. 🙂
Who else is guilty of foreboding joy, like me? You know the too many good things have happened in a row so now something bad is going to happen, consistently waiting for the other shoe to drop, and convinced the good stuff doesn’t happen to people like me, mindset…
After reading a Brene Brown book (or two, okay three) I learned this is called foreboding joy and IM NOT THE ONLY PERSON who acts this way…circumstance, social status, and financial bracket aside. People from all walks of life do this!
You can read my aha moment about not being special, here.
The trick to stopping foreboding joy is to practice gratitude. When I first read this suggestion I thought, “great, I’m already grateful. I have food in my fridge, a roof over my head, and clean water. How the Hell is this going to make any difference and help me feel joy?”
Well…the trick to the trick is you have to be specific and look for those little (sometimes big) moments in your day that made a difference to you in those moments. Know what I’m sayin?
For example, I really appreciated the text from a friend after the earthquake rolled through Southern California. She was checking in (because I’m from New York where the damn ground doesn’t shake) to see how I handled it, if I was okay, and to remind me I’m more than welcome to stay with her if I needed.
She didn’t have to text me, she didn’t need to extend an invitation, but she wanted to and I took a moment to appreciate her gesture…which may not sound like much to those who have no trouble accepting help or kind gestures, but it’s been a struggle for me to feel (or receive) the love others try to give me.
Me a few years ago may not have been able to sit in her generosity or kindness, consciously. You gotta pay attention to the unordinary moments in your day, the little victories or smaller gestures that spark moments of happiness.
I challenge you to look at your last 24 hours and ask yourself what are 5 unordinary moments you are grateful for in your day? Here is mine:
- My husband setting my alarm on my phone because I passed out EARLY and he wanted to make sure my morning routine didn’t get out of whack.
- Last night’s encouragement from my aerial class to flip my ass over and finally nail straddle backs!
- Afternoon Scrabble sesh with my MIL.
- Quiet time this morning to finish my book, Mastering Your Mean Girl.
- The ability to run my 3-mile loop and do it with my puppers, Bailey.
Your turn. Tell me in the comments.
RamblinRandol is my journey back to loving myself (which happens to include baking). It’s an open letter on how I’m growing through what I’ve been through. And like Maya Angelou said, “the ache for home lives in all of us…” It’s time for me to feel at home in my own skin.
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