There's a little something-something I want to get off my chest, something I want to say, not need to say. Some of my sharing shines a light on some insecurities I have regarding me as a person and my family upbringing. So I want to say this: don't get it twisted...
Mondays blog post was just the tip of the self-realization iceberg. Today's writing connects the dots I failed to see on Monday. Not only is my self-worth tied up in other's opinions, but I have high standards. Click the title to read more about how I figured it out and what I'm going to do to self regulate. **Hint - it has everything to do with the pause.
If you starve yourself of joy, the best way to combat this tendency is to practice gratitude. Here's what I learned in chapter 4: The Vulnerability Armor of Daring Greatly. In a culture of deep scarcity--of never feeling safe, certain, and sure enough--joy can feel like a setup. Everyone in the family is healthy. No major crises are happening. The house is still standing. i'm working out and feeling good, Oh, shit. This is bad, disaster is right around the corner. Hold the phone. Other people do this, too? You mean my secret (subconscious?) way of dealing with the too good vibes isn't an original plan? You're telling me this is one of the three ways people evade vulnerability and I fit into one of those damn boxes!? To be honest, I don't know if I'm more annoyed that a STRANGER is calling my shit out or that I'm becoming an annoying Brene Brown Superfan. Ooh! Or that I'm not as original or skilled at dodging emotions as I thought an hour ago. Read more of today's blog to understand the three ways we avoid vulnerability and how to knock it off if you forebode joy like me.
Here's what I learned after reading Brown's chapter about shame and how to combat those nasty shame gremlins talkin' nonsense inside your head. Sharing an example of my shame in case it helps one of you, too. Get in here if you want to know the 12 shame categories according to Brown and join me in kicking shame in the face! 😉
Daring Greatly And Being Stubborn - how I'm reading @BreneBrown 's book and learning how to cultivate my own dang happiness. Come check out some self awareness and 10 tips from Brown about how to 'Dare Greatly.'
Ever feel like you've already beat the odds and don't understand why you still feel like you're running? #Same - it all starts with your head game and understanding why Step One is Gotcha Minda Right. LMK is this helps you at all!
Man, who needs therapy when This Is Us seems to be hitting the nail on the head so accurately? Episode 11 had me crying like a baby and here's why.