Who has read Melissa Ambrosini’s Mastering Your Mean Girl?
A chunk of her points can be found in other self growth books (which has to be an obvious clue these ladies are on to something), but I appreciated her focus on filtering life through a lens of love to achieve your highest potential.
She also asks the reader a lot of questions and gives space in the book to write your answer. Fun Fact: I LOVE questionnaires.
But today’s blog is not a recap of the entire book, today I want to focus on just ONE of the chapters regarding divine relationships because recently I had to let a relationship in my life go, and it was painful (yet also therapeutic and freeing).
This section of the book was a friendly reminder I made the right choice, and I’m sharing just in case you need to read it, too.
Q: Who are the five most prominent people in your life?
Have you named them yet? I’ll wait…
Who else used to do that ^^^ in notes you passed to your friends in middle or high school? lol, it’s the little things you guys. 🙂
Alright, do you have your five? Great. These top five relationships are a direct reflection of you. Read that again. They are a direct reflection of you.
Melissa writes, “you see, we are a product of the people we surround ourselves with, which means whoever you’re hanging out with the most says a lot about who you are and who you are becoming. With that in mind, when you look at your list, is your immediate reaction ‘oh, crap!’ or ‘Hell yea, that’s awesome–these people are amazing; I am so inspired by them and grateful to have them in my life.”
Some people are really good at sucking the life and/or energy out of ya, and sometimes there is no removing yourself from the situation (coworker, boss, family member) so then what?
“Ask yourself what changes do I need to make within or to that relationship to make it more inspiring or healthy for me?” says Melissa.
The entire chapter stresses the importance about surrounding yourself with good people because these relationships influence your life. So why waste any of your precious time, space or energy on people who don’t appreciate it?
“The purpose of relationship is not to have another who might complete you; but to have another with whom you might share your completeness. – Neale Donald Walsch
RamblinRandol is my journey back to loving myself (which happens to include baking). It’s an open letter on how I’m growing through what I’ve been through. And like Maya Angelou said, “the ache for home lives in all of us…” It’s time for me to feel at home in my own skin.
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