I am proof a safe place changed the trajectory of my life. An excerpt from Brene's book Dare To Lead inspired this post and I want to know, are you proof too?
If you starve yourself of joy, the best way to combat this tendency is to practice gratitude. Here's what I learned in chapter 4: The Vulnerability Armor of Daring Greatly. In a culture of deep scarcity--of never feeling safe, certain, and sure enough--joy can feel like a setup. Everyone in the family is healthy. No major crises are happening. The house is still standing. i'm working out and feeling good, Oh, shit. This is bad, disaster is right around the corner. Hold the phone. Other people do this, too? You mean my secret (subconscious?) way of dealing with the too good vibes isn't an original plan? You're telling me this is one of the three ways people evade vulnerability and I fit into one of those damn boxes!? To be honest, I don't know if I'm more annoyed that a STRANGER is calling my shit out or that I'm becoming an annoying Brene Brown Superfan. Ooh! Or that I'm not as original or skilled at dodging emotions as I thought an hour ago. Read more of today's blog to understand the three ways we avoid vulnerability and how to knock it off if you forebode joy like me.
Here's what I learned after reading Brown's chapter about shame and how to combat those nasty shame gremlins talkin' nonsense inside your head. Sharing an example of my shame in case it helps one of you, too. Get in here if you want to know the 12 shame categories according to Brown and join me in kicking shame in the face! 😉