I got weepy during Cyndi Lauper's True Colors. It had something to do with familiarity, happiness and warmth. So I blogged my conclusion, check it out and let me know if you relate. I could use some solidarity.
My Skin Feels Too Heavy To Carry but I think I've figured out a piece as to why, and it has something to do with triggers and creative juices.
What Are Ten Wonderful Things About You? Gratitude Wants To Know. Read my latest realization and tell me yours in the comments. Join me in this weird (yet extremely rewarding and beneficial) quest for true belonging.
The Difference Between True Belonging & Fitting In is today's post about how #BravingTheWilderness gave me some freedom with its distinction between true belonging and fitting in. Who knew I had a different understanding all these years.
Today's blog answers two questions Brene Brown asked me in Chapter Six of Daring Greatly, and I want you to ask yourself the same questions and tell me your answers in the comments. So, what do you want people to know about you and what do you need from them?
There's a little something-something I want to get off my chest, something I want to say, not need to say. Some of my sharing shines a light on some insecurities I have regarding me as a person and my family upbringing. So I want to say this: don't get it twisted...
Mondays blog post was just the tip of the self-realization iceberg. Today's writing connects the dots I failed to see on Monday. Not only is my self-worth tied up in other's opinions, but I have high standards. Click the title to read more about how I figured it out and what I'm going to do to self regulate. **Hint - it has everything to do with the pause.
If you starve yourself of joy, the best way to combat this tendency is to practice gratitude. Here's what I learned in chapter 4: The Vulnerability Armor of Daring Greatly. In a culture of deep scarcity--of never feeling safe, certain, and sure enough--joy can feel like a setup. Everyone in the family is healthy. No major crises are happening. The house is still standing. i'm working out and feeling good, Oh, shit. This is bad, disaster is right around the corner. Hold the phone. Other people do this, too? You mean my secret (subconscious?) way of dealing with the too good vibes isn't an original plan? You're telling me this is one of the three ways people evade vulnerability and I fit into one of those damn boxes!? To be honest, I don't know if I'm more annoyed that a STRANGER is calling my shit out or that I'm becoming an annoying Brene Brown Superfan. Ooh! Or that I'm not as original or skilled at dodging emotions as I thought an hour ago. Read more of today's blog to understand the three ways we avoid vulnerability and how to knock it off if you forebode joy like me.
Here's what I learned after reading Brown's chapter about shame and how to combat those nasty shame gremlins talkin' nonsense inside your head. Sharing an example of my shame in case it helps one of you, too. Get in here if you want to know the 12 shame categories according to Brown and join me in kicking shame in the face! 😉